It’s Not About the Food

June 9, 2010 by Ylena Parks, MA · Leave a Comment
Filed under: Eating Disorders, Healing 

It’s about control. It’s about protection. It’s about emptiness. It’s not about the food, but about controlling our lives through our food. It’s about controlling out emotions through food. It’s about protecting our hearts and souls from painful emotions. It’s about not knowing how to fix a problem and using the only tool you could find at the time that worked – food. Liberation comes for the girl with the eating disorder when she realizes it’s not about the food, and food is not the solution.

If food were the solution, she wouldn’t still feel sad, afraid, empty, and alone. The solution can only be found when the girl with the eating disorder is ready to face her fears and call Satan on his lie by telling him “It’s not about the food.” I know, and I’m here to help. Just give me a call.

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  • Meet Ylena

    Ylena Parks, a native Californian, is married to a godly man and has two beautiful step-children. She has a Master's in Community/Clinical Counseling from Eastern University and presently works as an MFT Intern at OC Chrisitan Counseling in Garden Grove, CA.

    Ylena came to Christ at Calvary Chapel-Monterey Bay in 2001. It is through Christ's work in her that she conquered a 10-year battle with Anorexia, a disorder which consumed her 20s and led her along a path of self-destruction ... and eventually into the arms of Christ.

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